Hi Jazz,
Thank you so much for the review. Unfortunately we are only able to provide each pronoun in one shade, and we found that the pastel colours compliment well the bright colours of most of the flags that they will be paired with. The colour we chose for 'they/them' is closer to a pastel purple than it is to a pastel pink (the she/her in comparison is much closer to a pastel pink) so that was our intention. It's totally valid if the pastel purple is too close to a pink for you to be comfortable.
Darcy